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Sunglasses and Cilantro

First, let me apologize to you all for the length of time since I last posted.  Much has changed in my life and the transition has not been easy.  Relationships have changed and I am sure will change again. But, as usual, I observe what goes on around me and those observations do seem to …

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The Triumvirate, the Third Leg

What is it that brings this full circle?  What gives this glorious BDSM relationship the stability and support that allows it to exist?  It is Obedience.  In the beginning it is obedience to Transparency.  When a submissive holds something  back, she is taking control of the relationship.  She is deciding what her Dominant should know and …

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The Triumvirate, the Second Leg

Last time I spoke on Transparency (as I have often and before), and the necessity for those on the right side of the D/s or M/s slash (the s) to be clear and complete in their communication to their partner on the left (the D and M) no matter how contradictory or embarrassing that communication might be. …

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The Triumvirate, the First Leg

I was once told that a three legged stool was the most sable, because it could never wobble.  I am not sure if the analogy will hold through this.  But it is a good place to start. I often have deeply insightful discussions with my partner pb.  Our relationship is slowly but, and most importantly, consistently growing. …

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